Standards & Boys
disclaimer: this is a very personal post & it's taking a lot for me to share this with y'all, so please don't take what i'm saying lightly.
recently i've been struggling to allow the Lord to have complete control of my relationships. it has been a while since i've been in a relationship & i'm at a place where i feel like i'll never find someone to meet my standards. so i've been questioning whether i'm the problem or if there truly isn't anyone that i should be seeing at the moment. the question that keeps coming to mind is, "are my standards too high?" or "maybe i should lower my standards so that i can actually date someone?" let me tell you what's wrong with both of those questions. to start, there's an assumption that i HAVE to be dating someone. you don't always HAVE to be dating someone to be okay, its good to be on your own, bc you find yourself. secondly, you should NEVER LOWER YOURSELF OR YOUR STANDARDS ! bc the truth of the matter is, the man that God made for you should do anything for you. for example, if you want him (whoever "he" is) to propose to you on August 14th at 3:09pm upside-down while juggling golf balls, then he will find a way to do it, bc HE CARES ABOUT YOU & WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR YOU !! it can be very difficult to trust God when you can't even trust yourself to handle something. but let me tell you, GOD IS SO MUCH MORE CAPABLE THAN YOU ARE. can i get an amen ? He literally holds the world in the palm of His hands & you can be sure as heck that He can handle your silly little boy troubles. now, none of that is to degrade the world of dating &/or marriage, bc it is very sacred & important & should definitely be done right, so don't get me wrong. but you have to step back from your situation & recognize WHO IS IN CONTROL. the answer should always be God & if it isn't, then fix it. lay it all at the foot of the cross & surrender it all to the Lord & He will carry it for you. so take a load off & rest in the fact that the Lord's got it.
im doing my best to give it over to God, but it's definitely a daily struggle. some things that have helped me is when i feel the sadness or honestly insecurity come over me, i stop, recognize that it is satan trying to get to me & ask the Lord to give me joy & peace. i love to read scripture that talks about how God is in control or how He has plans for my life or how much more capable He is than I. it's so humbling, but also gives me so much peace & comfort to know that i don't have to handle life on my own ! i have a God on my side & a God who is willing to take up my problems, insecurities, & struggles for me ! He is willing to bear those & the cool part is, that it doesn't matter how much you're hurting, how much you're struggling, how much hate is stored up in your heart, or how much pain resides in your life, bc GOD CAN HANDLE IT ALL !! it weighs NOTHING to Him, so just give it all away girlfriend.
maybe you don't struggle with this at all, maybe you can't identify with me, but i created SBG to connect with anyone who would read it & in order to do that i have to be vulnerable & today i was extremely vulnerable with you. i wanted to share my heart so that maybe if someone who came across this post & was struggling with this that they would be encouraged. also, if this post resonated with you bc this is something you struggle with, PLEASE contact me. let me pray for you, allow me to intervene on your behalf. shoot me an email & just tell me what's going on & i'll do my best to help you in any way that i can.
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"& I will be to her a wall of fire all around, declares the Lord, & I will be the glory in her midst."
Zechariah 2:5